If you want to change your life, you have to change what you do. How do you expect to get different results if what you’re currently doing isn’t working?
First steps - Cuz it could be twofold for some of you - Identify the life you want to live and maybe what is making you unhappy if any. Depression doesn’t always have a root, so this may not apply to everyone but if there are any toxic people, habits or things in your life that you can avoid or eliminate, think about it and imagine your life with something better.
Second step is to make a plan - It’s so crazy because I do this for a living, (i help plan and execute events for work) but I never actually planned my life to the extent of what I do for work. I’ve only mostly been recording my days and jotting things down that need to be done in the immediate future but, I’ve never actually planned out an entire year before it even begins, but I’m happy to say I have for this year. Ok but how do you plan if you have severe ADHD like me? Find an accountability partner or friend that’s willing to check in on you. OR if you think you can be truly disciplined, check ya own damn self.. Because that’s actually the third step anyway!
Hold yourself accountable - stay true to your word and execute. Here’s the thing you can ask people to check in on you but the biggest thing is really checking in on your self. You can come up with all the excuses but in the end, the only person you’re really letting down is yourself. To me, being depression free means, living up to my fullest potential.. Working towards my dreams and goals but I can’t do that if I allow myself to slack off. I know it’s easier said than done but the beautiful thing is that it can be!
And if you don’t know how, GET HELP. What I realized this year is that because I had such an amazing year in 2021, I thought I knew everything I needed to know for 2022, but boy was I proven wrong. The things I was doing in 2021 no longer worked in 2022 and I resisted change. Here’s the thing, just because something worked for you in the past, doesn’t mean it’ll always work in the future. If something isn’t working out for you, figure out why and maybe try to ask someone who has overcome your challenges on how they did it. You should always try to go into every situation with your glass half empty (or full to keep the words positive since words matter) that way you can always fill your cup with something new. The only constant thing in life is change but funny enough, the last step is -
Be consistent. Be consistent with self-love and care. Be consistent with learning and trying new things. Never give up on the things that give you joy even if they might not be bringing you joy in that moment. The joy will come back eventually if you remember why it brought you joy in the first place. I think sometimes, the reason we fall off our “plans” is because we think we will feel better pursuing something else, even if that something else is “laziness”. Like sleeping in, opting for the easier, unhealthier meal. Like I’m not saying to never do these things, but at least try to stay consistent with what IS working for you so that you can keep that momentum going. I notice that my depression usually kicks in when I stop being consistent in what worked for me then when I start it up again, it helps me out and I end up revising parts of it to work for me presently.
And that’s it! I feel like a lot of these tips can work for anyone, not just those with depression but just how to make the best of life in general.
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